Loneliness is a suffering for those who are not used to it. The more we get used to being alone, the more we become hermetic and insensitive to the outside world. Of course, it takes time, but human psychology is like that, if it cannot modify its environment, it will make sure to adapt to it. There are several psychological defense mechanisms. Each one has a purpose and is suited to the temperament and sensitivity of the individual. These mechanisms are activated when we are suffering, that is, to help us overcome our neuroses. Someone who has a predisposition to reflection, for example, can easily develop a strong intellectualization to overcome his sufferings, especially those generated by loneliness, such as writing in a blog.
Loneliness Is Fruitful Simply Because It Forces An Inner Transformation To Be Better Lived.
The problem of being effective in overcoming possible neuroses and that one no longer feels the need to change his environment. Someone who has become accustomed to a hostile environment will no longer feel the need to seek calm and peace elsewhere. A person who has learned to live alone will also have given up the desire to make friends. This habituation is therefore a double-edged sword; it is good because it prevents us from suffering, but it is problematic because it makes us complicit in our environment.
Is There A Need To Change What Surrounds Us?
The notion that there are two schools of thought when it comes to how individuals interact with their environment has been long held. On one hand, there is the wise man who is content with the status quo, believing his mere presence and example holds a subtle but powerful influence over his surroundings. On the other, there is the common man who seeks change his environment and have some form of control or influence over it.
This debate has been prevalent throughout history and still remains relevant to this day. Philosophers, spiritual thinkers and scholars alike have proposed that the wise man’s brand of thought produces an enduring peace and harmony within an environment, while the common man’s view is more suited to short term effects, and may lead to instability in the long run.
However, what is often overlooked is the fact that neither of these schools hold the answer alone. Both models have their place, depending on the circumstances and individual preferences. For some, the desire to influence their situation is integral and overriding, while for others it is their acceptance and capacity for discernment that allows them to let go and be content with their current state of affairs.
Regardless of which path one chooses, both the wise and the common man require the same sort of inner transformation. For a successful transition, it is essential to first accept the reality of the present and then use it to propel forward. To take these steps and truly come to terms with one’s environment is the key to understanding how to influence and shape it for the better.
In my opinion, the wise and the common man are both trying to reach the same destination, just through different terms. Whether one prefers to accept their current reality and trust in their powers of persuasion or to actively shape and shift their environment, the ultimate goal is to create a better world.
If You Suffer, At Least Find A Good Reason To Do S
Many of us suffer needlessly, experiencing life with no sense of relief or hope for the future. Such suffering is often compounded when our lives feel aimless, missing out on the opportunity to be transformational. The difference between merely suffering and enduring salvific suffering lies in the ability to give our anguish direction and purpose.
Therefore, it is essential to recognize the difference between suffering that can be transformed, and that which cannot be healed. Transforming suffering is a journey of discovery and growth, enabling us to discover and nurture our inner resilience and strength. This suffering teaches us strength of will, positive self-image, and joy in life. It takes us on a spiritual journey, allowing us to find lightness, joy, and hope within the shadows of our despair.
On the other hand, morbid suffering is anguished and crippling, providing no internal or external solace. Such suffering is often inescapable and leads to a life hollowed out, leaving little space for hope or inner peace. We can only endure and survive, feeling an ache from our deepest depths, and a bitter sense of loss or hopelessness.
In recognizing and understanding the difference between the two types of suffering, we can begin to embrace our sorrows and grant them purpose. The salvific power of suffering lies in its ability to bring about change and growth, allowing us to transform and emerge in a place of peace with our lives. Understanding the nature of suffering can help pave the way to healing and meaningful existence.