The ability to attract is praised both in psychology and management magazines. Once considered a sin or a transgression—didn’t the serpent seduce Eve and Adam, or didn’t Paris seduce Helen, leading to the Trojan War?—today, seduction is yet another tool in the arsenal of power. Robert Greene, the author of “The Art of Seduction,” expressed it well in his book: seduction is part of the corporate world, which he closely observed and infiltrated to some extent, having held more than 80 odd jobs ranging from server to cook to language teacher in several countries. The etymology of the word is straightforward: from the Latin “se” (“for oneself, towards oneself”) and “ducere” (“to lead”), it literally means “to lead towards oneself,” much like carnivorous plants devour the flies they first attract. Seduction is undoubtedly a weapon, but should it be used?
Seduction: The Weapon of Those Who Cannot Resort to Force
For a long time, seduction was associated with women, as it was a necessary tool for them to survive in a world filled with dangers. The world of not so long ago—and I would even say today—was dominated by men who did not hesitate to use force to impose their will. Women had to devise strategies to find a place in this hostile world. The fact that the world increasingly relies on seduction is a sign that it is less and less inclined towards brute force, which is probably a good thing. That said, an ideal world would be one where neither force nor seduction is necessary for the truth to triumph. It might be naive and illusory to think of this, but if force and seduction are necessary, it is probably because they are there to conceal the truth.
Being Attractive
Being attractive is not the same as being seductive. A seducer is someone who uses their qualities for personal gain, which is a form of corruption. The attractive person shines without being prompted to serve any personal interest. Of course, someone attractive can seduce, but they do not do so intentionally. The capacity to be attractive is the result of a selfless personal approach. In contrast to the seducer, who is a form of conscious attraction, the attractive person is a kind of unselfconscious beauty. The seducer is narcissistic, while the attractive person has little self-awareness, cultivating a form of purity.
Why Should You Seek Attractive People Instead of Seducers?
Seeking an attractive person is to go towards someone who is authentic and vulnerable. It is easier to truly know an attractive person than a seducer. You are less likely to be manipulated and, ultimately, less likely to be betrayed. A seducer seeks to satisfy a need or a desire and also aims to use you, while an attractive person seeks to know you.
How to Become Attractive?
You should seek to please and honor yourself. What’s quite surprising is that the seducer seeks the love of others and a form of validation, while the attractive person seeks to love themselves with true love a little more each day by performing honorable acts. This approach then makes them detached from the world because their strength comes from within, not from their relationship with the external world. There are several levels of consciousness; David R. Hawkins summarized them as “power vs. force.” Seducers align with force, meaning they need others to feel strong. Attractive people find their strength within themselves; they are more aligned with “power” according to Hawkins. Their contribution is positive towards the world, unlike seducers.